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  • My biggest lessons a “Pandemic” has taught me.

    Ooomph 2020 and 2021 are definitely dishing out the goods aren’t they? At times i’ve been scared, riddled with anxiety, lost, and have waves of just wanting to give up. But, on the flip side side of this I have grown, noticed a inner strength that appears when there’s something that i’m deeply passionate about, learnt what is really important to me and the life I want to live.

    I know there is a lot of messed up things going on but I’m choosing (because everything is a choice, right?) to share with you my biggest lessons because, we are all in this collectively and that’s evolutionary.

    I know that while my lessons may be very different to yours, I believe there is not one individual on this earth that has not been impacted by this so, I would love for you to comment below and share with me (and the other awesome human beings reading this), your biggest lessons.

    1. Know your rights and stand up for them fiercely.

    Strangely enough, this is something I have NEVER had to do. I have always thought rules are there to keep you “safe”. Boy don’t I feel like a idiot now? BUT if none of this had happened, I would still be living in my own naive little world. As I sit back and watch society these days, I can’t help but feel deeply saddened. I see manipulation, fear mongering and coercion at a all time high with a large number of the population following the stories that they are fed on the mainstream media and kissing their sweet freedom goodbye because, they think it’s their ticket back to the “norm” and “safety”. The things you will conform t, when fear is the biggest driver. The power of thinking for yourself, questioning things and admitting some things just don’t add up is deemed as “wrong” and a “conspiracy theorist” because, all throughout our lives in particularly at school, we are taught to sit down, be quiet, listen and comply. I recently read “The happiest man on earth” which you can purchase here. As part of Eddie’s Jaku’s memoir he goes into depth his time in the German war. I struggled to read and comprehend (as a empath) exactly what he had gone through, but more than anything it rattled me because, to some extent, I can see history repeating itself now. I’m beginning to think a large sum of the population would quite easily be walked through a concentration camp if they were told it was for their safety and the safety of society.

    Luckily, this hasn’t got to be doom and gloom. While we are one, we are many and we have the power. Ask questions (because guess what? Your allowed to! and you should!), empower yourself, read the fine print and if something feels off to you, it more than likely is and this is your intuition telling you to dig a little deeper.

    The beauty of the country we live in is that we have the freedom to share our opinion, so my love, share away! Spread the knowledge that you have learnt, ask questions publicly, drop nuggets of wisdom to friends and family and most important of all, walk the talk of what you learn, because my love, it’s time for a revolution.

    I strongly urge, every single one of you (because I believe you are here for a reason), to watch this incredible video, where some facts and figures are laid out very clearly (without any lingo) for you to understand and potentially start you on the path of owning your power, and beginning to question things.


    2. I don’t want to be reliant on a system. I am in the drivers seat of my life.

    Entrepreneurship has never called my name so loud and clear. I have worked for other people within the retail and corporate industry. At the time i felt like a huge failure because I never seemed to be happy within these roles. I wish I knew 10 years ago that this didn’t mean I wasn’t cut out for the workforce, it just meant I wasn’t cut out for work that built someone else’s dream and was in fact born to build my own, my way. I never had financial freedom or the freedom of time while I was in these roles. I was being a slave to the model that we are shown throughout school, to trade a minimum 40 hours a week for a salary which is very much held in by a glass ceiling and we are taught to do this under another persons philosophy. Unfortunately, the price we pay for our salary isn’t just loosing the 40 hours a week of OUR time, it can be that we loose a sense of us, we become just a number. Every day I am choosing to take action and make choices that allow me to provide for my family in a way that is aligned to my values. I believe in abundance, I believe their is ample to go around, and I sure as hell am not going to waste my precious life being handicapped to what someone else thinks I’m worth. Along with this, I am creating a life that doesn’t leave me dependant on the governments system, because with that comes a whole other round of compliance in order for the “security” and that doesn’t exactly sit right with me.

    I am in the drivers seat of my own life, and I choose to create my own security.


    3. Spreading the power of natural health is my birthright.

    I was lucky enough to be brought up in a house hold where my Mum always took a natural approach where possible and, at the time it was a tad annoying and embarrassing but now I know, what a blessing it was. We would have regular appointments with our chiropractor and naturopath through this I learnt to fix things at a root cause rather than placing another bandaid over it to then, down the track create another problem. My mum’s passion for mother nature and living a low tax life didn’t end there, in my teenage years she became a consultant for Enjo and to us a household without toxic ingredients was the norm, so when it came time for me to move out that was all i knew and boy am i grateful for that, thanks Mum!

    I have dabbled in essential oils since 2017 however, it’s now my time to spread the power of mother nature and get them into as many hands as possible. I have learnt that a lot of the items that sit on chemist shelves have in fact been manufactured to mimic the benefits of Mother Nature so why do we keep turning to these synthetic items without any questions rather than reaching for the natural source instead?

    We all want the quick fix, we all want easy but, we seem to underestimate the power of what we put in our body, on our skin and allow in our mind. I cannot imagine living my life any other way.

    Have you ever heard of the saying “Genetics load the gun, lifestyle pulls the trigger”.

    Sit with it and think about it for a second. What are some simple swaps that you can make in your lifestyle?


    4. Surrounding myself with like minded souls has never been more important.

    The saying “You are the sum of the 5 people you spend most of your time with” rings loud and clear in my mind daily. When I surround myself with people who share the same morals as me and lift me up, I feel encouraged to show up boldly for myself and this to me is very important. My time and energy is precious and I don’t have the capacity for surface layer, inauthentic friendships.

    I want deep. I want genuine. I want like minded and I know that the more i surround myself with these kind of humans the more incredible aligned friendships will flow into my life because like, attracts like, right? and I understand that friendships are going to (and have) dissolve/ed and that flipping hurts! But they are simply paving the way and creating the space for new deeper connections to enter my life.


    5. I need to schedule in time for the things that make me, me, away from being a Mum.

    I absolutely love being a Mum. My life has a whole new meaning and I wouldn’t change it for the world! One of my biggest struggles with becoming a Mum is the sense of loosing myself. Who am i without being a Mum? What are the things that I love doing that make me, me? This feeling started when Flynn was first born and I was told quite a few times that I had found my calling. I know this was meant as a compliment but it left me feeling like I wasn’t destined for anything else, that this was ALL that I was put on the earth to do and be. While being a Mum is a HUGE part of my life, it isn’t all of it.

    Part of the reality of becoming a Mum is that a large chunk of your time is devoted to your little ones, leaving less time for you. It is now a priority for me to schedule in things for me such as, working on my business and getting back into Yoga and boy doesn’t it feel good!

    What are some of the things that you miss the most since becoming a Mum? Is there a way you can start getting back into them? Perhaps it may not be to the same capacity, and that’s ok but how can you make it happen because, a plan without action is just a wish. When we show up for ourselves we can show up much better as a Mum and teach our little ones to respect and honour themselves just like we do.


    6. Support the businesses that share your morals

    With some states going into their 5th lockdown, businesses crumbling and livelihoods being crushed supporting businesses that share your morals and voting with your dollar (in cash! Because we don’t want a cashless society!) has never been more important. Support your small local coffee shop over a large chain. Buy your produce locally rather than from Woolworths or Coles. Buy your meat bulk from a local butcher. Support the businesses that you would miss if they were no longer there and the ones that you walk away from feeling good.


    7. Stand up for myself

    Since becoming a Mum (I feel like I say this a lot!) the opinion of others has NEVER been pushed on me as much as now. I am someone who can cower down at the time, and then let things eat me up internally for quite a long time afterwards rather than, nipping something in the butt at the time and allowing myself to move on then and there. I don’t need to be told how to do things, what’s wrong and what’s right because truth be told, my intuition is the most important voice that I need to listen to. Standing up for myself hasn’t got to be confrontational, it can be done with love. We are all different, what works for one person may not work for another, respect one another and remember we are all individual beings.


    8. Self care and love is one of my priorities – Mindset is key!

    This lesson somewhat links back to number 5 but, i’m going to touch on it here in a slightly different light.

    I’m sure i’m not alone when I say that feelings of anxiousness have risen numerous times, and if i’m not careful, these feelings can take over.

    To help keep me out of a anxious state I continually ask myself “Is this currently serving me?”. Self care and love stem far deeper than treating yourself to a massage or going for a pedi. Do a emotional stock take, how do you feel when you do x,y and z? How do you feel when you spend time with Kim, Julie and Bianca? If it doesn’t lift you up, get rid of it. Declutter where your energy is going, if it doesn’t serve you in a way that allows you to show up being the best version of yourself. Don’t underestimate the power of emotional baggage and emotional health. Our mindset is so, so important. Sometimes one of the best things we can do is unplug from social media, and come back to ourselves, our own energy and our own surroundings.

    I’m sure one thing we have all learnt over the last 18 months is the power of surrendering (don’t confuse this with complying). We can’t control certain outcomes but we can ALWAYS control what state we choose to live in. What are some pathways that can help keep you vibrating at a higher frequency? Priortise them, no matter how small they may seem because they can make all the difference. By showing up for yourself, you show up for others.



    I know i’ve had many other lessons, but i need to cap it somewhere and have shared what I think are the most valuable.

    I know that while my lessons may be very different to yours, I believe there is not one individual on this earth that has not been impacted by this so, I would love for you to comment below and share with me (and the other awesome human beings reading this), your biggest lessons.

    Lots of love,

    Tegan xx

  • Is your identity holding you back?


    You’ve just met someone and one of the very first questions you get asked is “what do you do for a living?”. You feel a sense of judgement rising to the surface like your job “title” defines you to some extent as a person (in their eyes), and sometimes you may feel a sense of pride but you may also feel a sense of shame.

    For the past 2 and a half years i was a Bookkeeper within a successful accounting firm in the CBD of the Gold Coast. I wore the pencil skirts and heels day in and day out while feeling pretty proud of the image that it portrayed me as however, none of this corporate gal was the real me in fact it was very far from it. As some of you may know I recently left this job in order to pursue my Life Coaching and Doterra Business which meant finding something part-time close to home that gave me the freedom to do so.

    When I resigned the question “what are you going to do now?” was one that I would have to answer multiple times a day with my response being “I don’t know, see what happens” which was somewhat true, I didn’t know where I would find that part-time job that i was searching for but I did know what my end goal and big vision was. I couldn’t bring myself to answer with the truth of wanting to find something low stress, close to home and part-time so that I can help women say yes to themselves by building my Life Coaching business which I’ve been dabbling in for the past 3 years. No, no, no, that alternate, holistic, self-development side of me was hidden between the hours of 8.00-5.00pm and only came out at home with family and occasionally on the weekend with friends.

     

    We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. The old skin has to be shed before the new one can come. – Joseph Campbell

    Since leaving my full-time job I have found a part-time less glamorous job that is completely different to what I was doing that may I add I’m absolutely loving and forever grateful for however, I’ve noticed a bit of resistance and shame come up when I’m in faced with that dreaded question “what do you do for work?” and it got me thinking how many people stay in jobs that they no longer love because they don’t want to lose that title of accountant, nurse, store manager, lawyer etc because it gives them a sense of value and pride?

    How different would it be if after that question you were asked “do you like what you and are you happy?

    I personally know that I’m someone who prefers to be happy every day rather than waking up in the morning with a heavy feeling of dread for the day that lays ahead. I don’t want to live a life where my value is deemed on a job description, I want to challenge that status quo and not settle for less. Why? Because I know that if I get to the end of my life and all I could say was that I worked for a certain company for the last however many years, climbed the ranks, drove a nice car and owned my home that would not be enough for me, I would feel like I’ve played small and not lived to my full potential that I’m capable of.

    So my question to you is, Are you currently hiding behind a title? Are you happy and living on purpose most days?

    Tear off the mask. Your face is glorious. – Rumi

    If this is something that you feel you would like to work on please contact me here I would love to chat and possibly book in a complimentary 30 minute chat to discuss what it is that is holding you back. If working with me is something that you have been thinking about lately now is the perfect time as I have space for 2x pro bono clients in celebration of me taking the next big step in my business and launching my coaching packages.

    With love

    Tegan xx

  • Why it’s been a little quiet over here

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    Wowzers, not only is it 2017 but it’s May! Where has time gone?

    Some of you may have noticed that I’ve been a little (or very) quiet here in my beautiful online world so I wanted to fill you in on what’s been happening for me so far this year, why I’ve been quiet and most important of all to let you know just how much I have missed you!

    Towards the end of last year some big changes occurred within my full-time position as a Bookkeeper within an accounting firm, there was a lot of uncertainty and concern around the security of our positions as we merged with another firm. Luckily we all kept our job however, this came with a lot of changes and adapting that needed to happen some that suited me and some that didn’t. As Christmas holidays were drawing to a close the deep heavy pit in my stomach approached at the thought of going back to work, the realisation of where my passion lied and what I wanted to be doing was definitely becoming a lot clearer for me and harder to ignore.

    2017 was going to be one of the biggest years for me for one main reason, one of the best days of my life was happening in May, I was getting married to the man of my dreams who I have been with for nearly 9 years (yes ladies you heard me 9 years!).

    As the year progressed and the wedding was getting closer my work commitments continued to increase, I felt like I was in a circus trying to juggle my passion, home life, wedding planning and self-care. I was spreading myself thin over a lot of things however giving none 100% and it was starting to take my toll, so after a long chat to my amazing friend/coach Sarah Jensen I decided that I needed to take a bit of a break from my Life Coaching biz in order to release those great expectations that i had put on myself that I could do it all. This decision was not easy for me as I wanted my Life Coaching business to grow, it was my ticket to freedom and what I wanted to do every day because lets face it, my passion sure as hell wasn’t at my full-time job which felt like it was sapping my energy. So over the last few months I had been prioritising my relationship with my soon to be hubby, self-care and planning of the wedding.

    With this little break that I’ve had with my biz it has become even clearer once again that this is where I want to be, building my amazing Life Coaching business (and something else that’s a tad excited will announce once I’m back) to help other amazing women acknowledge and unlock their power to live a life that they love.

    Over the last 2 weeks I have made big changes in my life, practised what I preach and want to inspire other women to do, I have said yes to myself and passion and resigned from my full-time job in order to enjoy the wedding and honey moon 100% without feeling the heavy weight on my shoulders of work commitments. This decision was not made lightly at all, it came with a lot of second guessing, tears, and concern however, deep down in my heart I knew it’s what is right for me and I am forever grateful that I have the support from my amazing fiancé’ as he could see the effect that work was having on me, our relationship and my health.

    So with this said once I return from our amazing honeymoon in Hawaii I am upping the ante on my biz and finding a job which gives me the balance and freedom to do so. I am so excited to see what is yet to come and to connect with many more amazing, beautiful, like-minded women like yourself.

    Now it is time for me to love and leave you, I have some much-needed packing which is needed with less than 2 short days until the big day and 3 until we fly out (hello nerves!).

    Lots of love to you all, have definitely missed you! Lets promise to never have a break like that again!

    Tegan xx