Ooomph 2020 and 2021 are definitely dishing out the goods aren’t they? At times i’ve been scared, riddled with anxiety, lost, and have waves of just wanting to give up. But, on the flip side side of this I have grown, noticed a inner strength that appears when there’s something that i’m deeply passionate about, learnt what is really important to me and the life I want to live.

I know there is a lot of messed up things going on but I’m choosing (because everything is a choice, right?) to share with you my biggest lessons because, we are all in this collectively and that’s evolutionary.

I know that while my lessons may be very different to yours, I believe there is not one individual on this earth that has not been impacted by this so, I would love for you to comment below and share with me (and the other awesome human beings reading this), your biggest lessons.

1. Know your rights and stand up for them fiercely.

Strangely enough, this is something I have NEVER had to do. I have always thought rules are there to keep you “safe”. Boy don’t I feel like a idiot now? BUT if none of this had happened, I would still be living in my own naive little world. As I sit back and watch society these days, I can’t help but feel deeply saddened. I see manipulation, fear mongering and coercion at a all time high with a large number of the population following the stories that they are fed on the mainstream media and kissing their sweet freedom goodbye because, they think it’s their ticket back to the “norm” and “safety”. The things you will conform t, when fear is the biggest driver. The power of thinking for yourself, questioning things and admitting some things just don’t add up is deemed as “wrong” and a “conspiracy theorist” because, all throughout our lives in particularly at school, we are taught to sit down, be quiet, listen and comply. I recently read “The happiest man on earth” which you can purchase here. As part of Eddie’s Jaku’s memoir he goes into depth his time in the German war. I struggled to read and comprehend (as a empath) exactly what he had gone through, but more than anything it rattled me because, to some extent, I can see history repeating itself now. I’m beginning to think a large sum of the population would quite easily be walked through a concentration camp if they were told it was for their safety and the safety of society.

Luckily, this hasn’t got to be doom and gloom. While we are one, we are many and we have the power. Ask questions (because guess what? Your allowed to! and you should!), empower yourself, read the fine print and if something feels off to you, it more than likely is and this is your intuition telling you to dig a little deeper.

The beauty of the country we live in is that we have the freedom to share our opinion, so my love, share away! Spread the knowledge that you have learnt, ask questions publicly, drop nuggets of wisdom to friends and family and most important of all, walk the talk of what you learn, because my love, it’s time for a revolution.

I strongly urge, every single one of you (because I believe you are here for a reason), to watch this incredible video, where some facts and figures are laid out very clearly (without any lingo) for you to understand and potentially start you on the path of owning your power, and beginning to question things.

2. I don’t want to be reliant on a system. I am in the drivers seat of my life.

Entrepreneurship has never called my name so loud and clear. I have worked for other people within the retail and corporate industry. At the time i felt like a huge failure because I never seemed to be happy within these roles. I wish I knew 10 years ago that this didn’t mean I wasn’t cut out for the workforce, it just meant I wasn’t cut out for work that built someone else’s dream and was in fact born to build my own, my way. I never had financial freedom or the freedom of time while I was in these roles. I was being a slave to the model that we are shown throughout school, to trade a minimum 40 hours a week for a salary which is very much held in by a glass ceiling and we are taught to do this under another persons philosophy. Unfortunately, the price we pay for our salary isn’t just loosing the 40 hours a week of OUR time, it can be that we loose a sense of us, we become just a number. Every day I am choosing to take action and make choices that allow me to provide for my family in a way that is aligned to my values. I believe in abundance, I believe their is ample to go around, and I sure as hell am not going to waste my precious life being handicapped to what someone else thinks I’m worth. Along with this, I am creating a life that doesn’t leave me dependant on the governments system, because with that comes a whole other round of compliance in order for the “security” and that doesn’t exactly sit right with me.

I am in the drivers seat of my own life, and I choose to create my own security.

3. Spreading the power of natural health is my birthright.

I was lucky enough to be brought up in a house hold where my Mum always took a natural approach where possible and, at the time it was a tad annoying and embarrassing but now I know, what a blessing it was. We would have regular appointments with our chiropractor and naturopath through this I learnt to fix things at a root cause rather than placing another bandaid over it to then, down the track create another problem. My mum’s passion for mother nature and living a low tax life didn’t end there, in my teenage years she became a consultant for Enjo and to us a household without toxic ingredients was the norm, so when it came time for me to move out that was all i knew and boy am i grateful for that, thanks Mum!

I have dabbled in essential oils since 2017 however, it’s now my time to spread the power of mother nature and get them into as many hands as possible. I have learnt that a lot of the items that sit on chemist shelves have in fact been manufactured to mimic the benefits of Mother Nature so why do we keep turning to these synthetic items without any questions rather than reaching for the natural source instead?

We all want the quick fix, we all want easy but, we seem to underestimate the power of what we put in our body, on our skin and allow in our mind. I cannot imagine living my life any other way.

Have you ever heard of the saying “Genetics load the gun, lifestyle pulls the trigger”.

Sit with it and think about it for a second. What are some simple swaps that you can make in your lifestyle?

4. Surrounding myself with like minded souls has never been more important.

The saying “You are the sum of the 5 people you spend most of your time with” rings loud and clear in my mind daily. When I surround myself with people who share the same morals as me and lift me up, I feel encouraged to show up boldly for myself and this to me is very important. My time and energy is precious and I don’t have the capacity for surface layer, inauthentic friendships.

I want deep. I want genuine. I want like minded and I know that the more i surround myself with these kind of humans the more incredible aligned friendships will flow into my life because like, attracts like, right? and I understand that friendships are going to (and have) dissolve/ed and that flipping hurts! But they are simply paving the way and creating the space for new deeper connections to enter my life.

5. I need to schedule in time for the things that make me, me, away from being a Mum.

I absolutely love being a Mum. My life has a whole new meaning and I wouldn’t change it for the world! One of my biggest struggles with becoming a Mum is the sense of loosing myself. Who am i without being a Mum? What are the things that I love doing that make me, me? This feeling started when Flynn was first born and I was told quite a few times that I had found my calling. I know this was meant as a compliment but it left me feeling like I wasn’t destined for anything else, that this was ALL that I was put on the earth to do and be. While being a Mum is a HUGE part of my life, it isn’t all of it.

Part of the reality of becoming a Mum is that a large chunk of your time is devoted to your little ones, leaving less time for you. It is now a priority for me to schedule in things for me such as, working on my business and getting back into Yoga and boy doesn’t it feel good!

What are some of the things that you miss the most since becoming a Mum? Is there a way you can start getting back into them? Perhaps it may not be to the same capacity, and that’s ok but how can you make it happen because, a plan without action is just a wish. When we show up for ourselves we can show up much better as a Mum and teach our little ones to respect and honour themselves just like we do.

6. Support the businesses that share your morals

With some states going into their 5th lockdown, businesses crumbling and livelihoods being crushed supporting businesses that share your morals and voting with your dollar (in cash! Because we don’t want a cashless society!) has never been more important. Support your small local coffee shop over a large chain. Buy your produce locally rather than from Woolworths or Coles. Buy your meat bulk from a local butcher. Support the businesses that you would miss if they were no longer there and the ones that you walk away from feeling good.

7. Stand up for myself

Since becoming a Mum (I feel like I say this a lot!) the opinion of others has NEVER been pushed on me as much as now. I am someone who can cower down at the time, and then let things eat me up internally for quite a long time afterwards rather than, nipping something in the butt at the time and allowing myself to move on then and there. I don’t need to be told how to do things, what’s wrong and what’s right because truth be told, my intuition is the most important voice that I need to listen to. Standing up for myself hasn’t got to be confrontational, it can be done with love. We are all different, what works for one person may not work for another, respect one another and remember we are all individual beings.

8. Self care and love is one of my priorities – Mindset is key!

This lesson somewhat links back to number 5 but, i’m going to touch on it here in a slightly different light.

I’m sure i’m not alone when I say that feelings of anxiousness have risen numerous times, and if i’m not careful, these feelings can take over.

To help keep me out of a anxious state I continually ask myself “Is this currently serving me?”. Self care and love stem far deeper than treating yourself to a massage or going for a pedi. Do a emotional stock take, how do you feel when you do x,y and z? How do you feel when you spend time with Kim, Julie and Bianca? If it doesn’t lift you up, get rid of it. Declutter where your energy is going, if it doesn’t serve you in a way that allows you to show up being the best version of yourself. Don’t underestimate the power of emotional baggage and emotional health. Our mindset is so, so important. Sometimes one of the best things we can do is unplug from social media, and come back to ourselves, our own energy and our own surroundings.

I’m sure one thing we have all learnt over the last 18 months is the power of surrendering (don’t confuse this with complying). We can’t control certain outcomes but we can ALWAYS control what state we choose to live in. What are some pathways that can help keep you vibrating at a higher frequency? Priortise them, no matter how small they may seem because they can make all the difference. By showing up for yourself, you show up for others.

I know i’ve had many other lessons, but i need to cap it somewhere and have shared what I think are the most valuable.

I know that while my lessons may be very different to yours, I believe there is not one individual on this earth that has not been impacted by this so, I would love for you to comment below and share with me (and the other awesome human beings reading this), your biggest lessons.

Lots of love,

Tegan xx