You’ve just met someone and one of the very first questions you get asked is “what do you do for a living?”. You feel a sense of judgement rising to the surface like your job “title” defines you to some extent as a person (in their eyes), and sometimes you may feel a sense of pride but you may also feel a sense of shame.
For the past 2 and a half years i was a Bookkeeper within a successful accounting firm in the CBD of the Gold Coast. I wore the pencil skirts and heels day in and day out while feeling pretty proud of the image that it portrayed me as however, none of this corporate gal was the real me in fact it was very far from it. As some of you may know I recently left this job in order to pursue my Life Coaching and Doterra Business which meant finding something part-time close to home that gave me the freedom to do so.
When I resigned the question “what are you going to do now?” was one that I would have to answer multiple times a day with my response being “I don’t know, see what happens” which was somewhat true, I didn’t know where I would find that part-time job that i was searching for but I did know what my end goal and big vision was. I couldn’t bring myself to answer with the truth of wanting to find something low stress, close to home and part-time so that I can help women say yes to themselves by building my Life Coaching business which I’ve been dabbling in for the past 3 years. No, no, no, that alternate, holistic, self-development side of me was hidden between the hours of 8.00-5.00pm and only came out at home with family and occasionally on the weekend with friends.
We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. The old skin has to be shed before the new one can come. – Joseph Campbell
Since leaving my full-time job I have found a part-time less glamorous job that is completely different to what I was doing that may I add I’m absolutely loving and forever grateful for however, I’ve noticed a bit of resistance and shame come up when I’m in faced with that dreaded question “what do you do for work?” and it got me thinking how many people stay in jobs that they no longer love because they don’t want to lose that title of accountant, nurse, store manager, lawyer etc because it gives them a sense of value and pride?
How different would it be if after that question you were asked “do you like what you and are you happy?
I personally know that I’m someone who prefers to be happy every day rather than waking up in the morning with a heavy feeling of dread for the day that lays ahead. I don’t want to live a life where my value is deemed on a job description, I want to challenge that status quo and not settle for less. Why? Because I know that if I get to the end of my life and all I could say was that I worked for a certain company for the last however many years, climbed the ranks, drove a nice car and owned my home that would not be enough for me, I would feel like I’ve played small and not lived to my full potential that I’m capable of.
So my question to you is, Are you currently hiding behind a title? Are you happy and living on purpose most days?
Tear off the mask. Your face is glorious. – Rumi
If this is something that you feel you would like to work on please contact me here I would love to chat and possibly book in a complimentary 30 minute chat to discuss what it is that is holding you back. If working with me is something that you have been thinking about lately now is the perfect time as I have space for 2x pro bono clients in celebration of me taking the next big step in my business and launching my coaching packages.