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  • My biggest lessons a “Pandemic” has taught me.

    Ooomph 2020 and 2021 are definitely dishing out the goods aren’t they? At times i’ve been scared, riddled with anxiety, lost, and have waves of just wanting to give up. But, on the flip side side of this I have grown, noticed a inner strength that appears when there’s something that i’m deeply passionate about, learnt what is really important to me and the life I want to live.

    I know there is a lot of messed up things going on but I’m choosing (because everything is a choice, right?) to share with you my biggest lessons because, we are all in this collectively and that’s evolutionary.

    I know that while my lessons may be very different to yours, I believe there is not one individual on this earth that has not been impacted by this so, I would love for you to comment below and share with me (and the other awesome human beings reading this), your biggest lessons.

    1. Know your rights and stand up for them fiercely.

    Strangely enough, this is something I have NEVER had to do. I have always thought rules are there to keep you “safe”. Boy don’t I feel like a idiot now? BUT if none of this had happened, I would still be living in my own naive little world. As I sit back and watch society these days, I can’t help but feel deeply saddened. I see manipulation, fear mongering and coercion at a all time high with a large number of the population following the stories that they are fed on the mainstream media and kissing their sweet freedom goodbye because, they think it’s their ticket back to the “norm” and “safety”. The things you will conform t, when fear is the biggest driver. The power of thinking for yourself, questioning things and admitting some things just don’t add up is deemed as “wrong” and a “conspiracy theorist” because, all throughout our lives in particularly at school, we are taught to sit down, be quiet, listen and comply. I recently read “The happiest man on earth” which you can purchase here. As part of Eddie’s Jaku’s memoir he goes into depth his time in the German war. I struggled to read and comprehend (as a empath) exactly what he had gone through, but more than anything it rattled me because, to some extent, I can see history repeating itself now. I’m beginning to think a large sum of the population would quite easily be walked through a concentration camp if they were told it was for their safety and the safety of society.

    Luckily, this hasn’t got to be doom and gloom. While we are one, we are many and we have the power. Ask questions (because guess what? Your allowed to! and you should!), empower yourself, read the fine print and if something feels off to you, it more than likely is and this is your intuition telling you to dig a little deeper.

    The beauty of the country we live in is that we have the freedom to share our opinion, so my love, share away! Spread the knowledge that you have learnt, ask questions publicly, drop nuggets of wisdom to friends and family and most important of all, walk the talk of what you learn, because my love, it’s time for a revolution.

    I strongly urge, every single one of you (because I believe you are here for a reason), to watch this incredible video, where some facts and figures are laid out very clearly (without any lingo) for you to understand and potentially start you on the path of owning your power, and beginning to question things.


    2. I don’t want to be reliant on a system. I am in the drivers seat of my life.

    Entrepreneurship has never called my name so loud and clear. I have worked for other people within the retail and corporate industry. At the time i felt like a huge failure because I never seemed to be happy within these roles. I wish I knew 10 years ago that this didn’t mean I wasn’t cut out for the workforce, it just meant I wasn’t cut out for work that built someone else’s dream and was in fact born to build my own, my way. I never had financial freedom or the freedom of time while I was in these roles. I was being a slave to the model that we are shown throughout school, to trade a minimum 40 hours a week for a salary which is very much held in by a glass ceiling and we are taught to do this under another persons philosophy. Unfortunately, the price we pay for our salary isn’t just loosing the 40 hours a week of OUR time, it can be that we loose a sense of us, we become just a number. Every day I am choosing to take action and make choices that allow me to provide for my family in a way that is aligned to my values. I believe in abundance, I believe their is ample to go around, and I sure as hell am not going to waste my precious life being handicapped to what someone else thinks I’m worth. Along with this, I am creating a life that doesn’t leave me dependant on the governments system, because with that comes a whole other round of compliance in order for the “security” and that doesn’t exactly sit right with me.

    I am in the drivers seat of my own life, and I choose to create my own security.


    3. Spreading the power of natural health is my birthright.

    I was lucky enough to be brought up in a house hold where my Mum always took a natural approach where possible and, at the time it was a tad annoying and embarrassing but now I know, what a blessing it was. We would have regular appointments with our chiropractor and naturopath through this I learnt to fix things at a root cause rather than placing another bandaid over it to then, down the track create another problem. My mum’s passion for mother nature and living a low tax life didn’t end there, in my teenage years she became a consultant for Enjo and to us a household without toxic ingredients was the norm, so when it came time for me to move out that was all i knew and boy am i grateful for that, thanks Mum!

    I have dabbled in essential oils since 2017 however, it’s now my time to spread the power of mother nature and get them into as many hands as possible. I have learnt that a lot of the items that sit on chemist shelves have in fact been manufactured to mimic the benefits of Mother Nature so why do we keep turning to these synthetic items without any questions rather than reaching for the natural source instead?

    We all want the quick fix, we all want easy but, we seem to underestimate the power of what we put in our body, on our skin and allow in our mind. I cannot imagine living my life any other way.

    Have you ever heard of the saying “Genetics load the gun, lifestyle pulls the trigger”.

    Sit with it and think about it for a second. What are some simple swaps that you can make in your lifestyle?


    4. Surrounding myself with like minded souls has never been more important.

    The saying “You are the sum of the 5 people you spend most of your time with” rings loud and clear in my mind daily. When I surround myself with people who share the same morals as me and lift me up, I feel encouraged to show up boldly for myself and this to me is very important. My time and energy is precious and I don’t have the capacity for surface layer, inauthentic friendships.

    I want deep. I want genuine. I want like minded and I know that the more i surround myself with these kind of humans the more incredible aligned friendships will flow into my life because like, attracts like, right? and I understand that friendships are going to (and have) dissolve/ed and that flipping hurts! But they are simply paving the way and creating the space for new deeper connections to enter my life.


    5. I need to schedule in time for the things that make me, me, away from being a Mum.

    I absolutely love being a Mum. My life has a whole new meaning and I wouldn’t change it for the world! One of my biggest struggles with becoming a Mum is the sense of loosing myself. Who am i without being a Mum? What are the things that I love doing that make me, me? This feeling started when Flynn was first born and I was told quite a few times that I had found my calling. I know this was meant as a compliment but it left me feeling like I wasn’t destined for anything else, that this was ALL that I was put on the earth to do and be. While being a Mum is a HUGE part of my life, it isn’t all of it.

    Part of the reality of becoming a Mum is that a large chunk of your time is devoted to your little ones, leaving less time for you. It is now a priority for me to schedule in things for me such as, working on my business and getting back into Yoga and boy doesn’t it feel good!

    What are some of the things that you miss the most since becoming a Mum? Is there a way you can start getting back into them? Perhaps it may not be to the same capacity, and that’s ok but how can you make it happen because, a plan without action is just a wish. When we show up for ourselves we can show up much better as a Mum and teach our little ones to respect and honour themselves just like we do.


    6. Support the businesses that share your morals

    With some states going into their 5th lockdown, businesses crumbling and livelihoods being crushed supporting businesses that share your morals and voting with your dollar (in cash! Because we don’t want a cashless society!) has never been more important. Support your small local coffee shop over a large chain. Buy your produce locally rather than from Woolworths or Coles. Buy your meat bulk from a local butcher. Support the businesses that you would miss if they were no longer there and the ones that you walk away from feeling good.


    7. Stand up for myself

    Since becoming a Mum (I feel like I say this a lot!) the opinion of others has NEVER been pushed on me as much as now. I am someone who can cower down at the time, and then let things eat me up internally for quite a long time afterwards rather than, nipping something in the butt at the time and allowing myself to move on then and there. I don’t need to be told how to do things, what’s wrong and what’s right because truth be told, my intuition is the most important voice that I need to listen to. Standing up for myself hasn’t got to be confrontational, it can be done with love. We are all different, what works for one person may not work for another, respect one another and remember we are all individual beings.


    8. Self care and love is one of my priorities – Mindset is key!

    This lesson somewhat links back to number 5 but, i’m going to touch on it here in a slightly different light.

    I’m sure i’m not alone when I say that feelings of anxiousness have risen numerous times, and if i’m not careful, these feelings can take over.

    To help keep me out of a anxious state I continually ask myself “Is this currently serving me?”. Self care and love stem far deeper than treating yourself to a massage or going for a pedi. Do a emotional stock take, how do you feel when you do x,y and z? How do you feel when you spend time with Kim, Julie and Bianca? If it doesn’t lift you up, get rid of it. Declutter where your energy is going, if it doesn’t serve you in a way that allows you to show up being the best version of yourself. Don’t underestimate the power of emotional baggage and emotional health. Our mindset is so, so important. Sometimes one of the best things we can do is unplug from social media, and come back to ourselves, our own energy and our own surroundings.

    I’m sure one thing we have all learnt over the last 18 months is the power of surrendering (don’t confuse this with complying). We can’t control certain outcomes but we can ALWAYS control what state we choose to live in. What are some pathways that can help keep you vibrating at a higher frequency? Priortise them, no matter how small they may seem because they can make all the difference. By showing up for yourself, you show up for others.



    I know i’ve had many other lessons, but i need to cap it somewhere and have shared what I think are the most valuable.

    I know that while my lessons may be very different to yours, I believe there is not one individual on this earth that has not been impacted by this so, I would love for you to comment below and share with me (and the other awesome human beings reading this), your biggest lessons.

    Lots of love,

    Tegan xx

  • Pregnancy series Part 1



    I have wanted to share my pregnancy journey with you all for so long because it truly is such a magical time however, with sharing my amazing journey into motherhood it has also brought up emotions of one of the hardest times of my life which i believe is why its taken me 38 weeks into my pregnancy to share with you.



    For me my pregnancy journey started in June 2019. My husband and I had it all mapped out. Get married in 2017 and extend our 2 bedroom cottage into a family home in 2018. Once we achieved our big dream and goal of creating a family home we knew 2019 was our year to fall pregnant. My husband is a Sugarcane farmer which means 6 months of the year for us is full on with him working 7 days a week and huge hours so I knew if possible i didn’t want to be expecting a baby within that crazy period. It really felt like we had it all worked out perfectly.

    It was a rainy winters Saturday, I was a day or two late for my period and it was the month after we started trying so with a million emotions running through my mind and body I took a test which showed positive. Shocked and in complete disbelief we both looked each other with the thought “are we sure we’re ready?” being at the forefront of our minds. It had been just the two of us for 11 years and our lives were about to change drastically. As the weeks went by we shared our wonderful news with immediate family and with this the excitement started to flow. Two were becoming three and it finally started to feel like the right time for us.



    We were 8 weeks pregnant and the day had come for our dating scan and I remember feeling so excited to finally see the little bundle of joy that I was growing because in all honesty I didn’t feel any different physically. On our way to our scan we got a call from a friend of ours announcing that they were expecting in March, our excitement grew instantly with this news as our little ones would be a matter of weeks apart. As I laid on the bed in the radiology room for my scan it felt so surreal that we are about to see our baby for the very first time. As the lady started scanning my belly I jokingly said “please tell me there’s only 1” as twins run in Mitch’s family to which she replied coldly “there’s nothing there”. This can’t be right, there has to be a mistake.

    I left feeling broken but most of all shocked as naively miscarriage never crossed my mind. In panic mode I called my doctor right away, thankfully she squeezed me in right away and sent me for a emergency internal scan as she was worried that I had a ectopic pregnancy. Now my anxiety and emotions were at a all time high! Within the space of two hours I had gone from the excitement of seeing our baby for the first time to complete heart break that I had lost the baby and if it showed that I had a ectopic pregnancy I would be getting rushed to hospital for surgery as it could become fatal for me.





    In my internal scan they found the yolk and sac of the baby which meant that it could just possibly be that we were a lot earlier than we thought, although we knew between us that the dates didn’t add up we hung onto that as a glimmer of hope. The next step was for me to have a blood test to see if my HCG levels had risen to confirm if I was still pregnant. The next day i anxiously rang the doctor for my results to which she confirmed my HCG levels had doubled since my first test (at 5 weeks which confirmed I was pregnant). My gosh talk about a rollercoaster! The next day however, i started to bleed. Stressed and concerned I did a terrible thing and turned to Dr Google, a lot of people had said that spotting can occur after an internal scan. The next morning the bleeding became heavier and very painful, I knew something wasn’t right and that i had lost our baby. Mitch was quite concerned and wanted to take me to the Pregnancy Assessment Unit at the hospital to which they confirmed I had miscarried. Feeling somewhat numb after the last few days I went home to process it all.





    I felt such guilt for feeling how I felt when we found out we were pregnant. How could I have ever felt that way when now all of a sudden I wanted nothing more? I felt like it was the universe sending me a big lesson to be careful of what I put out into the world.





    The emotions that I felt for months to come were so hard to describe. I have never felt so alone even though I had family and close friends around, I felt like no one could truly understand. For me one of the things that I found the hardest was that a lot of our friends were announcing that they were expecting with them all being due within a matter of weeks of what we would have been. I felt like with every announcement i broke a little more when i honestly didn’t think i could break anymore. I felt tremendous guilt for feeling this way because I was happy for everyone but at the time it felt like a constant reminder of what i no longer had.





    I got to the point where I completely isolated myself. I no longer wanted to go out with our friends because I knew I would be faced with baby talk and would come home in tears to spend the rest of the weekend in bed. I remember feeling like I just wanted to get back to trying because I felt like I wouldn’t be complete again until our time came however, with these feelings started to become obsession, it was all I could think about, it had completely consumed me.





    I made a appointment with my naturopath as I wanted to do everything within my power holistically to help us fall again to which she recommended that I wait 3 months to let me body heal and reset. This broke my heart and simply was not a option for me. As each month went by and my period came it was heart break after heart break and would once again result in me being a emotional wreck. I felt completely broken. We had fallen so easily the first time without even truly trying, what was wrong with me this time? I felt like I couldn’t carry on, like absolutely nothing would make me happy again other than being given our time again. I just wanted to run away and escape.





    To help get me out of my funk and focus on something else my husband suggested that we look into buying a caravan. Camping was one of our favourite things to do and we both grew up going on camping trips with family and friends and knew that it was something that we wanted our children to also grow up doing. The caravan hunting became a good distraction and gave me a clear goal to work towards. As the weeks went by I began to somewhat relax around conceiving and put my trust and faith in the universe and let go of having to control and fix the situation.





    In November three months since our miscarriage, I was due for my period but had no feelings or symptoms that it was coming like I normally would. impatiently I knew I had to do a test! Excited and anxiously i awaited the pregnancy test results, I knew that if it showed negative it would absolutely break me but i also knew something felt different this time. As the test results appeared tears of joy instantly filling my eyes I showed my husband. We were going to be parents! We had been given one of the greatest gifts of becoming a family of 3, being parents and we never felt more ready.



    When we loose one blessing, another is often most unexpectedly given in it’s place.”



    To be continued in part 2 of my pregnancy journey.



    I wanted to share my experience of a miscarriage as I know it is something that often isn’t discussed. If you yourself have had a miscarriage or know someone who has please be kind to yourself and know that there is no right or wrong way to deal with it. Certain things may trigger you and that’s ok, just because it happened last month or year does not mean that you should be “over it”, there is no rule book on grieving. Please know that you re not alone with 1 in 4 pregnancies ending in miscarriage it is just something that unfortunately isn’t discussed.





    If you would like to reach out to me please know that I am always here for you because one of the things that helped me was reaching out to other women who shared their stories.





    Sending you lots of love,



    Tegan xx

  • A full review – Why I studied with Beautiful You Life Coaching Academy and my experience.

    Ever since I studied with Beautiful You Life Coaching Academy in 2015, I often get asked where I studied and would I recommend Beautiful You? Given that it’s been four years since I started my journey of becoming a Life Coach I thought it was about time that I shared my journey, experience and an honest review with you.Since there is so much that I want to share I thought it would be easier to break this post up into sections.

    How I found Beautiful You Life Coaching Academy

    I was 24 and working on a office job that I once loved, as time went on my work environment became very toxic and I was awaiting the arrival of my baby nephew which I was over the moon about but found myself going down a road of depression. My sisters pregnancy put a spotlight on what was important for me in my life and how my current job and environment were not supporting that and my core values.

    I found myself seeking inspiration from other life coaches who were living a life on purpose, radiating health mentally and physically and sharing their message which I absolutely loved and longed for a life where I could do the same. I ended up sending a few messages asking how they got to where they are now and where they studied which is how I discovered Beautiful You. As I was reading through Beautiful You Life Coaching Academy’s website I knew it was the one for me and the decision was clear I just had to do it, now was my time.

    I ended up becoming severely depressed and had to resign from my position without another job to go to as I knew I couldn’t stay any longer for my mental health. Ironically the day I resigned was also the day that I took the leap and signed up for Beautiful You. Life was starting to look up for me.

    Why I chose the Beautiful You Life Coaching Academy

    I absolutely loved the heart centred approach of the course. I wasn’t after a tafe course or something similar which felt very “sterile”, I was after something that would resonate with me and give me the skills and freedom to create my own business and life doing what I loved, helping other women. The modules that the academy covers gives you everything you to not only become a life coach but also create a successful business. The modules that are included in the course are:

    • Module 1 – Intro to Life Coaching
    • Module 2 – Coaching communication
    • Module 3 – Coaching Engagement
    • Module 4 – Coaching Goals
    • Module 5 – The Coaching series
    • Module 6 – Types of Coaching Goals
    • Module 7 – Mindset Matters
    • Module 8 – Beyond 1:1 coaching
    • Module 9 – Your Ideal Clients
    • Module 10 – Building your business
    • Module 11 – Your Online Presence
    • Module 12 – List building, launching and building relationships
    • Module 13 – Public speaking
    • Module 14 – Celebrating you


    Pretty good modules right?

     Within each module there is a team coaching call where there is two allocated times (as people from around the globe will be studying with you). If you can’t make the phone calls live, don’t stress as they are recorded and you are able to access and download them from the membership portal. If you can make the calls live I would highly recommend as it is a great time for you to ask any questions directly to Julie Parker the founder of Beautiful You Life Coaching Academy or the trainers and also build relationships with other coaches. 

    You will also receive a course manual which I found myself referring back to regularly and also a workbook which allows you to put pen to paper, dive deep and complete tasks for each module. Within the membership portal there is also section where you are able to complete questions (a requirement to become certified if you wish), receive feedback from trainers and  also amazing resources such as interviews that relate to each module, over 150 reusable worksheets to enhance your life coaching work with clients and best of all outstanding support from  the Beautiful You Trainers.

    You are also given the opportunity to have a coaching buddy, which I would highly recommend and found invaluable. My buddy and I had regular fortnightly Skype or phone calls where we would coach each other, provide feedback, discuss our learnings and insights. You will also have access to a Facebook group which is just for your months intake eg, Feb intake, May or October. This facebook group allows you to connect, build relationships, also learn from others and arrange catch ups with other life coaches who may be within your area. 

    Beautiful You also holds Inspirational Meet ups, these meet ups are completely optional however, the locations that they are held at are absolutely divine with some being within Australia and others in other countries such as Paris, Hawaii, Vancouver etc. The in person meet-ups are a great chance for you to get a chance to hug, connect and meet your fellow trainee’s and trainers. Expect something beautiful and inspiring as there are also amazing guest speakers with previous speakers being Melissa Ambrosini, Rebecca Campbell, Angela Simpson, Lisa Messenger and Madison Hedlund just to name a few!

    How long does the course go for?

    The duration of the course is a 6 month in-depth course designed to train you to become an incredible life coach and also build the business of your dreams.

    You will cover a module roughly every 2 weeks which includes the module in the workbook, worksheets to complete, lectures to listen to, guest interviews covering the topic and also your live training call.

    I was working full time when I studied with Beautiful You and allowed roughly 5 hours a week to stay on top of each module and roughly another 1-1.5 hrs a fortnight for my coaching buddy phone calls.

    I also loved saving a bit of time by downloading the lectures, interviews and live calls to my phone and listened to them during my commute to work or on my walks and I’m not going to lie, I find myself still turning to these amazing audio downloads for regular inspiration and drive.

    Certification

    Once you complete your studies with Beautiful You Life Coaching Academy you have the opportunity to become certified.

    Please note: if you choose to not become certified it doesn’t mean that you can’t offer your services in exchange of money, you have still completed the course and it’s entirely unto you what you want to do with it – the beauty of running your own business! 

    If you have been following me lately you will see that I recently became certified. I made the choice to do this because I wanted to give myself that extra little bit of credit and I found myself craving the support and connection from BYCA and other coaches and I knew I wanted to become affiliated with such a well-respected brand that I truly believed in.

    There are a few requirements to become certified and I encourage you to get clear on these once you start your studies so that you are aware of them, can complete everything that is required and don’t miss out on your chance to become certified. Once you become certified you receive a portfolio on Beaut

    iful You’s website and also become part of a certified facebook group which allows you to connect and support other coaches from around the world.

    Some final words

    The Beautiful You Life Coaching Academy is so much more than just a life coaching course. I went through so much personal growth and transformation while undergoing this course and still to do this day.

    The knowing that you don’t have to settle with working for someone else all of your life in a soul destroying job drives me every day to take actionable steps towards building my business with my end goal being that I don’t have to go work for someone else ever again and can create a life for myself and family which gives us the freedom that we crave.

    Beautiful You definitely changed my life. I have met so many other beautiful coaches who have now become my friends and I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend Beautiful You to anyone.

    My gift to you

    My gift to youI’m sure by now you can tell that I am passionate about this course and helping other women create a business and life of their dreams and on their own terms.

    If your feeling the call like I did to enrol in the Beautiful You Life Coaching Academy, and enrol via this link I have a special offer for you, a free 3 month coaching series with me which you can read about here.

    Within our coaching series together I will hold your hand and be your personal cheerleader as you take the steps to creating change in your life. Together we will create heart centred goals and actionable steps to help you achieve your goals. My 3 month coaching package includes:

    • 6x 60 minute Skype or phone sessions fortnightly over 12 weeks.
    • Email support between our sessions.
    • Relevant worksheets, resources and other useful tools to support you throughout your series.
    • A FREE 30 minute follow up Skype call one after after our series has been completed to see how you are tracking.

    How do you get my Affiliate bonus?

    Step One: https://www.beautifulyoulifecoachingcourse.com

    Step Two: Enter my first and last name in the “CODE” field* upon checkout (see image below for example).

    CODE TO RECEIVE MY BONUS: Tegan Skinner

    Important Note: If you enter my name in any other area than the one instructed, (which is the code field at your enrolment stage – please see graphic below), or not at all at the exact time of your enrolment, you will not be able to receive my affiliate offerings. This is not something that can be amended at a later time and so please be careful at your sign up stage to do this as I want to be able to support you on your coaching journey!



    What happens once you enrol?

    Beautiful You will send you a series of emails securing your seat and getting you set up for the academy.

    You will also receive an email from me including a pre-coaching questionnaire and also securing a date for our very first session together.

    If you have any other questions please feel free to contact me at hello@teganskinner.com