Do you crave alone time?
Do you identify yourself as a sensitive soul?
Don’t worry, I get
Change can scare me. I’m extremely sensitive to other peoples moods, emotions and sometimes pure bliss to me is chilling on the couch watching Netflix rather than heading out for a night with some friends.
I use to think that i was just overly sensitive until recently when I discovered the word Empath and what it meant. I would often think to myself what is wrong with me, I need to toughen up and not let things get to me and view my emotions and traits as a negative, until recently when I have been diving deep into learning more about what being an empath means and tools and strategies that I can use to help me turn my sensitivities into strengths. The world, unfortunately, see’s sensitivity as a weakness and the weak don’t survive, I call bullshit.
So with that said, I wanted to share with you some things that I have
Know your limits
If you know that you have a busy week ahead don’t go and jam
There is no harm in saying no and if your friends are true and know you well trust me, they will understand what is best for you and support you in your decision.
I’ll say it again (or perhaps scream it) B O U N D A R I E S.
You may be quiet, extremely giving and a big people pleaser because hey who wants to disappoint others but please know
I will protect my energy around draining people. I will learn how to set healthy boundaries. I will learn to say “no” at the right times. I will listen to my intuition about the relationships that are nurturing for me.
Ground yourself and practice self-care on the regular
Have you ever heard of the saying you can’t pour from an empty cup? I couldn’t agree more. As people pleaser’s it’s so easy for us to say yes to all the things even when it’s something that we don’t really want to do or within our best interest. Today’s society has become very busy and fast paced in most things that we do and often forget to stop and just be and remember not to compare yourself with others as some people thrive in that kind of environment and some like ourselves may need a little more down time than others.
Grounding or also known as Earthing is scientifically proven to calm our nervous system. Our feet are extremely good at grounding stress because of the many reflexology and acupuncture points our soles. Grounding can be as simple as walking barefoot in your own backyard or at the beach. I have also recently discovered that empaths love the water which makes it so clear to me as to why I love being by the beach or taking a long bath with magnesium salts and essential oils. Plant your feet firmly on mama earth even if it’s just while you hang out the washing and take a few minutes to yourself.
Return to sender
Since diving deep into this beauty of a book this mantra has become one of my
Workplaces and public places such as shopping
Repeat the mantra “Return to sender. Return to sender. Return to
You are not other’s circumstances
I’m sure your one of the friends who people love having deep conversations with and sometimes with this, there can be a lot of emotional offloading – If you allow it! You can be there for your friends and show empathy without taking on grief as your own.
A good way to recognize whether your energy is yours or someone else’s is to ask yourself is this emotion mine or someone else’s and control how much time you spend listening to the person.
If you feel you are too connected with someone’s unpleasant physical or emotional state visualize a cord of light extending from your belly to theirs and then lovingly set the intention to cut the cord. Now visualize taking a pair of scissors cutting the cord between you and the unwelcome energy that they carry.
I would love to hear from you now. What are some tips that you find work well for you that can help others? Please share below beautiful because you will help more people than you may think.